# Blog — Joy Trevivian, Bristol Counsellor

> Articles on self-esteem, self-worth, anxiety, trauma and wellbeing.

- 2025-05-14 — [What if anxiety is a gift?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/what-if-anxiety-is-a-gift.md): What if anxiety isn't a medical problem to be managed, but a symptom of something else? Like a warning light on a car to show you that something in life isn't working for you and needs addressing?
- 2021-06-09 — [Why do we choose unhealthy relationships?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/why-do-we-choose-unhealthy-relationships.md): Have you ever wondered why you or others keep ending up in the same sorts of unhealthy relationship patterns time and time again? Adult relationships play out the relationship patterns that we learn in childhood.
- 2020-04-23 — [How to alleviate anxiety](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/how-to-alleviate-anxiety.md): Sometimes it can feel as though life is happening to us. We are at its mercy, and we don't have much of a say about what happens. How we feel about life depends on what we think about it.
- 2020-04-04 — [5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/5-ways-to-boost-your-confidence.md): At its simplest, self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. It can vary a bit on an hourly or daily basis according to our experiences, but often, if we have a low self-esteem then it remains low regardless.
- 2020-03-29 — [Making Decisions](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/making-decisions.md): It can be so hard to make a decision. If only we could know what the future would hold with each available option, then we could make a choice according to the outcome it would give.
- 2020-03-20 — [Things to do Every Day to Boost Wellbeing](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/things-i-do-every-day-to-boost-my-wellbeing.md): If you find yourself feeling anxious and overwhelmed, sometimes it's so hard to know what to do to help yourself. Here are some daily things that are super simple to do and will boost how you feel.
- 2020-03-13 — [5 Tips to Help Calm Health Anxiety](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/5-tips-to-help-calm-health-anxiety.md): Coronavirus is all over the headlines. There is a lot of panic and anxiety around. Where there's uncertainty and fear, we feel unsettled and don't know what to do with ourselves.
- 2020-02-28 — [How Can You Rewind Trauma?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/how-can-you-rewind-trauma.md): Sometimes life happens. Bad things happen, unexpected things happen, traumatic things happen. Trauma can affect your body, mind and feelings, leaving you feeling like the world isn't a safe place.
- 2020-02-26 — [What can the top regrets of the dying teach us about living?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/what-can-the-top-regrets-of-the-dying-teach-us-about-living.md): Bronnie Ware, a palliative nurse, spent time working with many people who were dying and came up with themes of things repeated time and time again. She called these the top 5 regrets of the dying.
- 2019-11-13 — [Whose Responsibility is it Anyway?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/whose-responsibility-is-it-anyway.md): I watched the re-made version of The Lion King recently, and it struck me how much Simba's story is all of our story. So often we end up carrying responsibility for something that has happened to us that isn't ours to carry.
- 2019-11-07 — [Do you feel loved?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/do-you-feel-loved.md): How loved you feel might not be a reflection on how loved you are, but whether the love you receive is communicated to you in a way you can receive.
- 2019-11-01 — [Where do you get your energy?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/where-do-you-get-your-energy.md): One of the things that often gives people a-ha moments is learning about how we get our energy. If your life isn't balanced in a way where you have things that energise you, then the chances are that you're living in a cycle of burnout.
- 2019-10-22 — [Is it time to blossom?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/is-it-time-to-blossom.md): So often we put things off, and tell ourselves that it isn't that bad, or that others have it worse. We live through challenging circumstances, plodding on, surviving not living.
- 2019-08-17 — [What Can We Learn From Time Travel?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/what-can-we-learn-from-time-travel.md): In the film About Time, Tim discovers that he can time travel. He can go back in time, and tests it out by re-living experiences and changing how things have turned out for him.
- 2019-07-26 — [How Can We All Be More Like Princess Jasmine From Aladdin?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/how-can-we-all-be-more-like-princess-jasmine-from-aladdin.md): I've just watched the remade version of Aladdin. The part that resonated with me was where Princess Jasmine was speaking out about not being silenced.
- 2019-02-23 — [Why Burnout Happens and How to Prevent it](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/why-burnout-happens-and-how-to-prevent-it.md): Have you ever felt just so physically, mentally, emotionally exhausted and like you've lost all sense of purpose in your life? Where life feels overwhelming and like it has no meaning anymore?
- 2018-06-24 — [The Self Care Project Book Review](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/the-self-care-project-book-review.md): My own awareness of self-care started during my counsellor training. I had some counselling, during which my Counsellor asked me about what my needs were. I couldn't answer her question, because I had no idea.
- 2018-04-28 — [Start Where You Are, Don't Wait Until You're Ready](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/start-where-you-are.md): I'm about to start co-leading a group as part of a project to get young girls to be more active and to live healthier lives. It has got me thinking about my own journey of getting started.
- 2018-03-14 — [Why Self-Compassion Matters](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/self-compassion.md): The concept of self compassion at its simplest is being a good friend to yourself. We often know what we would say to a friend if they were having a rubbish time, but usually we're much more critical of ourselves.
- 2018-03-11 — [Angry Outbursts](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/angry-outbursts.md): Anyone can be angry -- that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way -- that is not easy.
- 2018-03-08 — [Self Care When You Have Nothing Left](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/self-care-when-you-have-nothing-left.md): When life is at its hardest, sometimes the very things that can help us feel better can feel like such massive hurdles to accomplish. Sometimes self care is about reaching out to others when you'd rather hibernate.
- 2018-02-08 — [How Do We Become Resilient?](https://joytrevivian.co.uk/blog/how-do-we-become-resilient.md): Resilience is a buzzword at the moment. But what does it mean? Resilience can be defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties or the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape.

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